so this why i dont have any friends

[zeddy]

hi im 23 years old and i dont have a friend to my name. i could never quite put my finger on it, why no one ever wanted to talk to me ever since school till this very day. people just dont seem to enjoy my company, infact i have made people hate me without me even opening my mouth.

so a couple of years ago i finally figured it out that it was my terrible social skills. i just dont know what to say to people and i seem to repond to them with the wierdest sentences which are totaly off topic and make no sense.

another thing i realized was that it was even hard for me to talk about the things i enjoyed like sport and games. i know about them and the raw information is probably somewhere in my head but i just cant seem to put them all together to form tangible sentences.

i thought i could improve by doing things like reading out aloud, trying to talk more often and making eye contact but this was to no avail.

so now i dont even bother with social interactions, not because i hate talking to people but because i just dont want them to feel uncomforable and put them in awkward situations.

i've already been to the doc about it and he didnt take me serioulsy so i think i may need to go private. any help would be great.

[zeddy]

one example is when i made this girl at work hate me. i never even talked her but obviously i did something wrong, maybe not talking to her is what did it. she then started blaming me for everything, spreading rumours of how useless i was and turning everyone against me. but what really sucks is that she liked everyone else and everyone liked her even the people that i thought were half decent and when i heard her talking to these other people she was an alright gal. and thats when the hurt really kicks in.

[wootlebug]

she probably fancied you...:)))

[kittykat123123]

Sometimes there are just people that you don't get along with. Remember, just because you don't get along with them doesn't mean you can't work with them. Just because she is saying stuff doesn't mean that people are listening to her. And above all, prove her wrong! Be the better worker, be helpful and polite, and then none of the rumours will stand up.

[Robdemanc]

Everywhere I have worked I have managed to annoy people without trying. I think it is so demanding of employers to expect everyone to get along and I hate the way the everyone in the workplace seems to drop their personalities at the door and become a robotic person for the day. I also think that people in work are completely untrustworthy. And yet I often trust people with things of a personal nature!! I have not yet been diagnosed with AS but I wonder if I have it.

[smithshn]

Its depend on you. You have wrong thinking. Just met the people and observe that at which topic they enjoyed a lot and start talking on that topic. You should always share your thoughts. Never think negative.